The holiday season is upon us and it an ideal time to practice one of the most useful etiquette skills: the art of being a great guest. A host can manage her event better when she knows her guests can take care of themselves socially.
- Polite Conversation
The secret to small talk is to find common ground that you can discuss for a few minutes. The secret to being a great conversationalist is being a good listener. The majority of people enjoy talking about their interests. Find common ground by discussing sports, careers, or parenthood. Children find common ground by playing together and discovering their shared interests, activities, music etc.
- Offer to help
If you are not hosting, be prepared to help. Children usually love to help with preparations so give them something fun to do that shows them they are being considerate of the host.
- Mind your your E’s and M
Elbows and forearms should not be on the table during a food course. It is acceptable to have elbows on the table between courses or after the meal. In fact, it can show that you are engaged in the table conversation. If you are eating continental style it is okay to have your wrists rest lightly on the edge of the table.
Eat with your mouth closed. Once kids are around four they can start to understand this rule. Creating a habit of this can take years. When you have company, a signal – such as pulling your ear Carol Burnett style - can help to remind kids. This avoids having to yell across the table. Give it a try because after all, what makes good manners? Practice!!
- Bring a host gift
It is always nice to bring something for the host in addition to the items you may be bringing for the meal. Some easy gifts: candle, notecards, flowers or wine. Know that the wine may not be served at the occasion: it is for the host to enjoy later.
Thank you for taking the time to read this. My best to you and your family for a wonderful holiday season.
