Back in the Stone Age, when my bff from college was being adopted, her adoption was closed. Today, she is without any records on her birth family or medical history. She had no idea of her heritage or even true birth day… fast forward 30 odd years, to when we were adopting; we were so lucky to receive medical history, parental info and contact numbers. Initially we were opposed to an open adoption ...we were fearful that it would somehow make us feel like ‘lesser parents’ or like we were sharing our kids (nothing could be further from the truth), but now were are very happy we did it, not only because the kids KNOW their story thru pictures, and documents but there is medical information for the future.
Today, with all of the ancestry web sites, core blood banks and other fantastic technology; adopted children have a much closer link to their birth families and birth history. Years of research, red tape and lost information are no longer impediments for adopted children to find out information. It is a scary part of being adoptive parents, the day your children want to find out and meet their birth family. My 11 year old has been asking if he could meet his birth family. As wonderful and amazing as they are, we have decided to wait until he is mature enough to handle the questions, emotions and realty that that event can raise. However, when that day does come and he is ready to know more, I am so grateful that he will have all the letters, pictures, forms and records of his birth family & birth that we were given and if there are any more questions the internet is a wonderful resource.
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